I 'm not sure why we should be shocked when someone ends a marriage and comes out of the closet. The top warning signs? Possession of homosexual pornography and evidence of visits to homosexual porn websites. You would not think a lot of men, confronted with a log of their hours spent on sexynakedmen.
M y husband was always very tactile and loving but rarely wanted to have sex with me, even in the early stages of our relationship. He eventually stopped altogether after about four years. He was vague about the reasons and never brought up the subject himself. I begged him to have therapy, and he always agreed, but he never did. I read a lot about sexless marriages but nothing seemed to apply. But then, after three decades, the penny dropped and the truth dawned; he announced he was gay, and left. And there was now a new puzzle: why on earth had he married me, been unfaithful and cheated me out of a sex life?
We have four young children. He moved out quickly after I discovered the relationship. His kids miss him. I honestly thought we had a happy and loving marriage. Do you have any advice for me?
Posted by Dara Donelson on Jul 4, Taking care of yourself should be a priority at this point in your journey. Who can you talk to?