Is it too fast? Do you like him? Do I even like him? No matter your relationship or view on sex, girls talk about this with each other.
Thanks to Hollywood's unrealistic standards, we've all built up this imaginary idea of what sex is supposed to be like. But the truth is, everyone's experience is different. Sometimes it's smooth and romantic, and other times, it's kind of terrible. But no matter how old you are or what the circumstances are, having sex for the first time can feel like a huge deal!
Everyday Feminism will. More specifically, the brilliant Jamie Utt and I will. Because it needs to get done. That said, let me be absolutely clear that I am a cisgender woman, and as such, many of these lessons come from a cisgender perspective and should be treated as limited in that way. So what are some steps to take before diving into sex for the first time?
Sex can be a daunting topic and a frightening thought for some, especially if it is their first time ever or the first time with a new partner. There are so many questions around it, some that you might be too shy or embarrassed to ask your friend or partner. Here are some guidelines or tips to put you at ease and answer those questions. Make sure he is wearing a condom; insist on it even if you are on the pill or using other contraceptives.