The teenage years are notoriously turbulent. Adolescents are establishing their own identities, doing more things independently, trying out different roles, taking more risks socially, and possibly experimenting with drugs and alcohol, and all this can come with emotional costs. So it can be complicated to tell the difference between the typical turmoil of a teenager, and a depressed teen. But depression can take a toll on teens.
She came for help with a long-standing depression. But verbal abuse is amorphous. Verbal abuse is so much more than getting scolded. Attachment and infant-mother research confirms what we all intuitively know: Humans do better when they feel safe and consistently loved, which means, among other things, being treated with respect. Children do better when they are calm.
You thought the terrible twos were bad. When she was two, she cried, kicked, and screamed. You can reduce and eliminate teenage tantrums by taking these six steps. But before you start, understand that you need to take these steps when things are calm and no one is being confrontational.
Tantrums, defiance, moodiness, intense emotions, impulsive and reckless conduct. Sometimes it may be hard to believe, but no, your teenager is not an alien being from a distant planet. Your teen may be taller than you and seem mature in some respects, but often they are simply unable to think things through on an adult level. Hormones produced during the physical changes of adolescence can further complicate things.