Before I did a deep dive into the word cuckold and what it has always meant and everything it means now , I just had this vague idea that a cuckold was a man worthy of mockery. The truth is that being cuckold today means something very different from what it did when the word was first coined. Let me share with you everything I learned about being a cuckold and cuckold culture. Cuckold originally meant being the wronged husband of an adulterous wife. The word is derived from the cuckoo bird who is known for laying its eggs in the nests of other birds. An important part of this definition is the notion that the husband has no idea that his wife is pulling one over on him.
Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe. Q: I'm a bi, white, married man—35 years old and living in a big midwestern city. I'd like to know what's going on in my psyche—from a sex-research perspective. I've been hung up on cuckold fantasies with my female partner for years now. But nine times out of ten, I'm spinning a yarn about her fucking other men, whether it's a threesome, cuckolding with me watching, or her going out on dates and coming home a delicious mess.
CNM is practised in all sorts of forms, such as polyamory having multiple romantic partners and swinging swapping sexual partners with other couples. There are variations in how cuckolding plays out for different couples—some cuckolds enjoy being verbally and sexually humiliated—but cuckolds are generally involved with watching their partner have sex. All varieties of cuckolding can be practised by anyone, regardless of their gender identity or sexuality. Nonetheless, there seems to be a high proportion of straight men who are interested in it—and yes, if you sleep with men, you might be familiar with a version of dirty talk that involves you recounting past hookups. When she does, she's always told me about the experiences.