Kissing while naked? Oral sex? Turns out, a bit off-putting to both, but promising. But one day, in a dank little basement in a suburb outside of St. Louis, Missouri, they realized that anal sex could be a compromise.
Saddlebacking is the practice of engaging in anal sex as a means by which to ostensibly preserve one's virginity while still gettin' it on. The term typically describes activities undertaken by young people who have been taught to value abstinence , but who rationalize their behavior with the logic that only the act of vaginal penetration "counts" as sex. The term was coined by the readers of Dan Savage 's weekly sex column, who borrowed it from the Saddleback Church, an Evangelical outfit run by Rick Warren , an outspoken homophobe , to point out the hypocrisy of teaching "abstinence" to hormone-riddled teenagers. A much older term exists in reference to a young woman who indulges in the practise: demi-vierge ; there's nothing new about this. As abstinence-only programs tend to teach that contraception is wrong or ineffective, "saddlebacking" is likely to be done sans - prophylactic ; this prevents one problem but creates another.
There's a myth that just because someone is a virgin that sex with them is automatically safe. However, it's not true. Even if it is a virgin's first time having vaginal intercourse , it doesn't mean that they have never been exposed to an STD.
Using a sample of 15—year-olds from Cycle 6 of the National Survey of Family Growth, we examine technical virginity and its motivations. The results suggest that religious adolescents are less likely than less-religious ones to opt for non-vaginal sex over total abstinence. Abstinence pledgers who are virgins are neither more nor less likely than nonpledgers who are virgins to substitute non-vaginal sex for intercourse. Moreover, religion and morality are actually the weakest motivators of sexual substitution among adolescents who have not had vaginal sex.