In the movie Far From Heaven, four young housewives discuss their sex lives over lunchtime daiquiris. The boldest of the group coaxes the others to reveal how often their husbands want to make love. Can you imagine? The movie is set in the '50s and the clothing and interior decorating reflect the era, as does the girlish modesty of the confessions. Sex is presented as a wifely duty, an activity that, while not unpleasant, is engaged in because one's husband insists on it. Still, while the women roll their eyes at their husbands' appetites, the tone is one of thrilled, bubbling excitement.
He launched into a frustrated tirade as if his feelings had been bottled up for years. My wife was ready to act out any fantasy I could imagine. Both of us had a wild past and our views of sex were shaped by our own experiences and a lot of exposure to porn. We even watched a lot of porn together as a way to spice things up. Jesus taught that to look at another person with lust is to commit adultery in your heart.
I'm not going to lie: I often walk down the street and stare at hot power couples in envy, thinking "Boy, I bet they have so much good sex. It's natural to be curious, and it makes total sense to want to emulate the habits of couples who have lots of sex. The sad truth about long-term relationships is that, whether you've been dating for five months or five years, you can fall into a sexual rut sometimes more than once.
Losing the spark in a long-term relationship is often inevitable, just like realizing that Justin Bieber is actually making amazing music right now. The longer you're with someone, the more likely you are to transition from "passionate" love into "compassionate" love, Gary Brown , Ph. Passionate love is more about sexual arousal, while compassionate love is what helps you forge a deep emotional attachment with your partner. That's a nice way of saying as time goes on, you're probably less interested in break-the-bed sex than you are in curling up and watching Friends reruns together. Even though that transition might be scary, it's not necessarily a bad thing!